Mental Health in the Age of the Coronavirus – The New York Times

Would you do us a favor? Would you be willing to describe how the coronavirus is affecting your mental health? Is the combination of isolation and existential stress making you feel more depressed and anxious? Or is the family togetherness and the pause from normal life giving you a greater sense of belonging and equilibrium? How would you describe your psychological state? What are you doing to cope? If youre a mental health worker, what are you seeing out there?

If youre willing to share, please fill out the form at the end of this column. The Times may publish some responses online and Ill write another column reporting on what you say.

I ask for a couple of reasons. This is a moment that calls for deeper conversations and emotional accompaniment. Were all going through something together. Well be more resilient if we can see others experiencing it in the same way.

Also, its hard to get an accurate read on the nations psychological state right now. On the one hand, this has become a wonderful moment of national solidarity. Millions are responding with acts of generosity, finding ways to bring food to elders, hosting virtual cocktail parties. People are checking in with each other. You hear of these 50-person family reunion Zoom calls.

Our national identity is being remade in real time. What had once seemed a bitter and divided society now seems more like a nation of people finding creative ways to show up for one another.

But its also likely that something much darker is going on, especially among the less fortunate. A study by Samantha Brooks of Kings College London finds that quarantine produces a range of bad mental health outcomes, including trauma, confusion and anger.

Theres an invisible current of dread running through the world. It messes with your attention span. I dont know about you, but Im mentally exhausted by 5 p.m. every day, and I think part of the cause is the unconscious stress flowing through us.

Many people are alone, consuming media all day. Others are trapped in homes with abusers and dysfunction. Alcohol and drug use is rising. In France, reported cases of domestic violence are up by about a third.

Tyler Norris of the Well Being Trust points to a curve behind the Covid-19 curve. Every one-percentage-point increase in unemployment leads eventually to a 3.5 percent increase in opioid addiction, so the pandemics economic effects alone will exacerbate our drug and mental health problems down the road.

Psychological health in times of crisis is like a wrestling match. The situation throws stressors at you. The question is whether your coping mechanisms are strong enough to overcome them.

The pandemic spreads an existential feeling of unsafety, which registers in the neurons around your heart, lungs and viscera. It alters your nervous system, changing the way you see and perceive threat.

Its very hard to grasp whats going on so deep inside. All trauma is preverbal, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk writes in his book The Body Keeps the Score. Rational brain is basically impotent to talk the emotional brain out of its own reality.

The best way to combat this visceral sense of fear and disassociation is by having what Bonnie Badenoch, the author of The Heart of Trauma, calls disconfirming experiences. These are experiences of deep reciprocal attunement with others that make you feel viscerally safe.

These moments of attunement and co-regulation register in the same autonomic nervous system and overcome the fear and helplessness.

Creating these experiences takes effort. Being together is not the same as being connected, Columbia professor Martha Welch told me. She recommends that people engage in deep intentional and vulnerable conversations, in which they pause for as long as 90 seconds after something important has been said, just to let it sink in. You have to have the feelings conversation, she says.

She and the other experts I spoke with endorse anything rhythmic. Anything that will create an experience of attunement: singing, dancing, yoga, deep eye contact, daily rituals and games.

I asked the experts whether they thought it was possible to have this sort of deep, visceral attunement over the internet. They thought it was, as long you can see the other persons face and hear vocal tone. The internet is a huge variable in this pandemic, Dr. van der Kolk told me. We have a profound new way to comfort one another.

Anna Freuds famous research found that during World War II the children left in London to endure the bombings suffered less trauma than the children who were sent away from their families to the country for their safety. She determined that the physical injury is often not the harshest part of trauma; its the breakdown of relationships during and after.

Sharing your emotional state with the world is not for everybody, and people who feel fragile should take care. But if you feel like filling out the form below, you may give others somebody to relate to. You might help turn a fractious country into a resilient community.

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Mental Health in the Age of the Coronavirus - The New York Times